Love Vs Lust

Sex the biggest addiction one can have and also the mode of highest pleasure one can feel. *Conditions Applied* - Both the partners are equally involved and enthusiastic about the act. The stronger the strings of feelings the better goes the act, more is the pleasure pumped out and highest is the level of satisfaction.

In India, sex is yet a taboo, and thus the ambiguity in its discussion has developed various monstrous forms of the same. Rape being the ugliest of all. Lust has made man so blind that, he has lost the sight of humanity. Man’s animal calling has taken over his human soul.

But today the discussion is not about rape or the mutual sex. It is something that lies in between the two, & extremely outrageous. Sex is more of a mind game for the starved animals, who emotionally manipulate their partners into sex, with fake promises. They acclaim to have a better & secured future. In some cases, it is defined by the 21st Generation, that it is the necessity to carry the relation. These people are so shameless that, they openly claim that, they do not assure any future, yet pressurize on the so called, “Physical Intimacy”. Being a woman, I do understand the mindset of that, teenage girl, who is ready to have her first sex, with her boyfriend, only so avoid that break-up.

P.S.: That’s the guy she loves so dearly. Think of that new intern who secretly has a crush on the eye-candy of her office, but is unaware that he is married. The guy notices it all and plays it smartly to end the same in the bed. There is another section of the so called, Mature Age Group. Now there are these two people, who are capable enough to take decisions in their lives, and have chosen to date each other. In the process of, “Knowing-Each-Other”, they take a trip, “To-Spend-Some-Time-Alone & there pops in the, “Lets-have-sex”. Here if the girl is not that sure of how to proceed, or thinks, that, it’s not the right time, so she is dumped, declared whore/slut etc. There are more such examples of circumstances, where the girl goes on to have sex, not because she is willing to, but just to keep the “Relationship Going”. Unaware of the fact, that’s the moment she would be dumped off (at least in most of the cases).

I still cannot grasp the facts, that why certain men, disclose their lecherous fantasies of that one woman. Why they can’t take out their filthy eyes off her body. Why they make her feel naked just with their lewd actions. Dear Men (who fall into this category, I know that you all know it about yourself), please stop doing that to any woman. You don’t realize this, but deep down, it tears her soul apart. Next time with a genuine guy, she would give a hundred thoughts before trusting him. Love her soul, not just her body, and in return she would put the whole world to one side, and you to other. That’s the way we women are.

To all the men out there, “A woman is the reflection of her Man. If you love her to the point of Madness, she will become it” – Brad Pitt.

To all the ladies out there, whether you are 16 or 60, single or married or divorced, studying or working or house-wife, rural or urban, just follow your heart, listen to your gut feeling, esp. when it is about sharing your body. It doesn't matter with the count. What matters is the peace of your deeds, within yourself. Make it, Your Choice, because at the end, it’s your body. I know that for most of the women sharing bodies is more of going till the souls. So be it, if the relationship is breaking off, let it go. The ugly truth is that the man never loved you, just lusted for your body. Don’t forget that one day, when the lust would end, with the withering body, so would his interest. Don’t allow anyone to treat you like a tissue paper. Stand for yourself, fear no one, and say it, say loud & clear, “NO”. Let him comprehend that it’s not the time you are ready & prepared. If you see him, yet persuading you, or being angry or stubborn enough to bend down to appreciate your choice, to see through your lenses, just calmly walk off from him. I assure you will never regret that decision, despite of how much compatible you were, and how much charming he is. Ladies remember this one, that the one, who doesn't respect your choices, will never respect you. Once you make yourself strong and pull in all the courage to say a no, that was least expected out from his part, it will leave him shell-shocked, and that’s when you see his true colours. In situations like this, there is no mediocre show. It’s always about the extreme ends.

So ladies, this is my piece of advice to you all out there. Make your choices wisely. & yes, forget what the world has to say, because the world always has something to say. Wish you all the luck to find your soul mate.

Love Shuchi